Pretend You Are Awesome in Order To Be Awesome
If you want to be confident then you need to first act confident.
Pretend that you are the person that you want to be and slowly you will become that person.
This is half of the logic behind using good posture to beat fear. You will never become something if you never try to be it.
I believe that this method of acting is effective for the majority of the changes you may want to make in your life.
Don’t make this Mistake
A common mistake is acting out only half of the behaviours that you want to embody. This often happens when trying to be like another person (I hear people saying be the self you want to be).
When wanting to be a rich person, people try to act rich by spending lots of money. This will not make you a rich person, trust me.
You need to model all the behaviours that make up a rich person.
So you want to make up a business plan, look for niche markets and learn about finances.
If you can accurately imitate a rich person in all their totality than chances are that you will be a rich person.
Pretend to be Happy
When it comes to pretending to exist in different emotional states you have to have a little extra understanding.
The only difference between pretending to be angry and being angry is that in one of them you are in control and can choose how to act.
In order to pretend to be in a certain emotional state you have to first free any emotion that is lying in your chest.
Feel the pressure and sensation of the emotion in your chest and then let it melt away, breathing deeply can help.
Without making room for the new emotion of your choice you will only be able to act externally and it will be a shallow act.
The only way to become anything is to believe all the way to your core that you are already it and go for it.
With all this said you can always pretend to be happy, or rather, you can always be happy.
Happy now?
What Now
- Leave a comment
- Subscribe to Warrior Development
- Read posts in Planning and Execution
- Follow me on Twitter
Get Updates via RSS
March 24th, 2009 at 10:49 am
Hi Jarrod – Pretending to be something that you want to be is a great first step. We don’t always have the confidence starting out in the role we want to occupy, but doing a bit of acting can help you put your mind in the right place so that you can eventually be the thing that you want. Thanks
March 24th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
Pretending can give us a false sense of security. It can take us up to a certain level. In my opinion, best is to work in incremental steps and constantly realign ourselves until we reach our ultimate goal.
March 24th, 2009 at 10:20 pm
@Amanda: Right, the first step to being what you want is to actually go out and be it!
@Evelyn: I guess it depends on what you are trying to achieve. If it is a change in behaviour then pretending or rather fully acting in the desired way works well. Their will be internal resistence (like fear) which has to be dealt with.
On the other hand if you want to be someone who can work anywhere in the world changing countries every few months then you have to take it step by step in order to ensure you have the physical required resources to sustain such a behaviour.
March 28th, 2009 at 2:55 pm
Hi Jarrod
It is the fake it till you make it theory. It is not a matter of pretending for the sake of pending but more a matter of creating an image of ourselves that can convince us that we are really more than we might think.
Well said.