I want to give all people happiness.

Yet I know that the only happiness worth having is the one you can call upon whenever you want, which can only be gained through an individuals own effort.

Consequently I can only act to inspire and enable. Here’s what I try to give to grow happiness.

What to Give for Happiness

1. Be a Living Example of Happiness with no Restrictions

For others to change, most require some sort of proof to realise that such a state of being is possible. There can be no better example than your own life. Don’t be afraid to share parts of your life that were not the greatest, but don’t forget to share how grateful you are for being able to figure out a way through them.

Unfortunately for some, these examples are too far from what they feel is their current state. They are wrong but the example becomes too distant from their own view of themselves.

They have all sorts of reasons flying through their minds that they may not have even recognised. Their situation is much worse, the challenges are different. Their families are holding them back, they don’t have a good support network. All irrelevant but these things will stop anyone from discovering lasting happiness. Therefore we employ gift 2.

2. Provide a Action that can be Taken to Lessen Pain or Realise Happiness

In order to break through the glass prison something new needs to be presented, or something old needs to be reborn from a different angle.

One approach is to disillusion them about something that is holding them back. Such an approach requires a great deal of compassion and understanding. Picking something that does not have a lot of emotional charge behind it and enabling them to remove it themselves can be an eye opening experience.

The other way is to bypass the obstacles and reach straight for a greater realisation. Here you appeal to a goal of the individual. By laying out a path to their desired destination they feel that maybe, just maybe this is something they could actual do. Something they could achieve. This method doesn’t get them to directly confront their issues but it does do two things.

Firstly it ignites a creative energy, this energy is what allows for one to think about doing things they have not done before and it grows an individuals personal power or self confidence quietly.

Secondly if they choose to walk along that path to a goal they will inevitably hit one of their limiters. At this time they may hit it in such a way that enables them to overcome it or they may have gained enough trust to ask you for advice to help them with it.

In general you want to take them out of stagnation and engage movement in some direction. Just enough so that they can gain some personal momentum, increasing their own ability to grow themselves.

3. Become a Mirror to Shine their own Growth back to them

Once enough trust has been gained you want to be open enough that they will feel comfortable being equally open with you. The world seems to provide an abundance of negative influences to convince anyone that they ‘don’t possess what they want’ or that they are lacking in some way. People have to come to realise that such negativity has no value and only their own definitions matter.

Everything about being a mirror is about shining their own ability to create and grow back to them.

Help them to understand what they have already changed. To realise the full extent of the changes they have made to themselves and the barriers they have busted.

When their power becomes strong enough they will be able to rip down their own restrictions without your assistance and begin to experience the freedom possible.

4. Smile

Not everyone believes that happiness is always around and they refuse to approach the idea.

It’s important not to hide your own beliefs from such people. You do not want to be confrontational but you still want to let them and anyone who is around know that there is a choice.

Go forth and spread the word.

How do you approach enabling happiness and change?