Comments on: Slaying Hesitation

By: Jarrod

Jarrod — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 11:07:45 +0000

@SDT: Agreed, people have to be ok with making mistakes.

By: self development training

self development training — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 02:58:47 +0000

I like your point in “Choose your own form of self confidence.”. Weapon of choice.

One of the common problems of people today is “decision making”. Perhaps it’s confidence in deciding. Many of us feel the pressure and confused about how to handle pressure. This thing is easy to solve, we need to develop good attitude. Experts say many things about this so I suggest all of us try getting into a self development training.

By: Jarrod

Jarrod — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 09:43:07 +0000

@Martin: Hehe, you are right. A shoddy analysis means you have plenty of reasons for doubt. I tend not to consider this angle because I don’t believe I can accurately gauge my own analysis skill. Also how ‘good’ it is, is not quantifiable in my opinion. It can always be ‘better’ meaning there would always be doubt, so I would avoid that option all together.

Regardless you still want to have the best analysis skills you can have .

@J.D. Meier: Experiments is an interesting mindset. All about gathering more information.

By: Jarrod

Jarrod — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 09:37:44 +0000

@JB: I’m glad the timing was great for you. It is really important to remember that even though an action may have resulted in a ‘negative’ result that it was still worth doing. As without action things would continue on the same trail and through action you have gained valuable experience and knowledge.

@Kaizan: No regrets, nice. Another option is to remember that a decision is only ‘bad’ from a particular viewpoint. Change your viewpoint and soon you realise it was just a decision.

By: J.D. Meier

J.D. Meier — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:36:11 +0000

I like your frame for compulsion and inhibition and I like how you turned it into decision preparation.

Chunking things down and using time limits helps me keep a bias for action. Another pattern I use is calling something an experiment. It let’s me test the waters without putting big hurdles in front of myself.

By: Martin Wildam

Martin Wildam — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 08:32:44 +0000

> Do not second guess your decisions.
> If you have come to a decision through
> a logical analysis and after weighing your
> options decided upon an action then you
> have no reason to doubt your decision to act.

If there are doubts rising afterwards the reason might by that you did not do well your analysis. – But if you did the analysis job well, then I totally agree with you.

By: Kaizan

Kaizan — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 08:10:45 +0000

Great post. I like the “doubt creates the D in self-destruction” point. Doubt and regret seem to be cousins.

I have a policy on regret: No one ever makes a bad decision intentionally. You make decisions based on your best knowledge at the time. Why then, should you regret anything?

By: JB

JB — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:57:28 +0000

Great post. Thank you for this. It was exactly what I needed to hear today, as I am exhausted after a sleepless night of tossing and turning. For the first time in my life, I stood up for myself and presented an alternative that I knew might generate a negative reaction. But, as you said, I had “come to a decision through a logical analysis…” and I knew if I didn’t speak up, I’d kick myself for not trying.

The reaction received was a bit more extreme than anticipated. The other party was less than receptive, unwilling to even consider my feelings about the matter, and shut down completely after having the last word with a thinly veiled threat. This lead to the tossing and turning, because my mind kept returning to the “possibility of [very serious] undesirable results from [my] planned action” as well as much second-guessing: should I have put it out there or stayed silent?

But, as you’ve pointed out, there is no tragedy from which you cannot recover, and doubt leads to self-destruction. I REALLY needed to hear this today–your post eased my mind. It feels like it will likely work itself out just fine.