Comments on: You Have No Reputation

By: Jarrod

Jarrod — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 20:45:20 +0000

@Amit Sodha: Yes I can see how playing that sort of role would require that. I think the key to it all is to just be true to yourself without expecting anything in return. To do this is amazing.

By: Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice

Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 12:33:08 +0000

Hey Jarrod,

Cool concept. A good friend of mine is a political blogger and he’s used to getting slandered and if anything it’s helped build his ‘reputation’ for being a competant adversary, so to speak. His thoughts are though that he’s knows he can’t please everyone so he doesn’t even try. He writes according to his beliefs and doesn’t worry about the reputation he establishes, he just goes for it.

A valueable lesson indeed!

By: Jarrod

Jarrod — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 06:06:38 +0000

@Tess: Yes I hope a new viewpoint can give people another way to see themselves.

@Deborah: Indeed you are correct Deborah. If you like it is the reflective reputation of our reputation held by others.

But there is no bonus to happiness to hold a reputation of ourselves. Reputation is for others to pass quick judgment on us, we know ourselves better than any reputation so it’s useless to us.

By: Deborah

Deborah — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:44:25 +0000

What your friend was worried about was what he thought everyone else thought of him through his filter of himself… so then he really does own his reputation doesn’t he??? Whether he is correct about the way other people see him or not, it really is his idea of himself that has him concerned… I think.
I’m not disagreeing with you that what other people think of us is none of our business. I find that people don’t tend to think even half as much about us as we think they do anyway, and those that do are really just so boring anyway aren’t they????
Simplistic I guess, but I’m pretty happy… most of the time!

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 00:09:36 +0000

I’ve never quite looked at it this way. There’s a lot of truth in that. If we told everyone who believes they have a bad reputation that they don’t…well it would free them up to believe in themselves again!

By: Jarrod

Jarrod — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:10:48 +0000

@Albert: This is good for me to think/feel about, thankyou.

By: Albert | UrbanMonk.Net

Albert | UrbanMonk.Net — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:35:55 +0000

This is a fantastic article Jarrod! I remember going to a talk by Bob Adamson, he took it one step further. If everyone else’s image of us is just an image, what about our own image of ourselves? Do we need a self-image (or self-reputation)? What happens if we don’t have one anymore?